The Five Love Languages

Dearest came over to Tampines on Thursday, to meet up with me after work. It was a last minute thing, as I had told him that I was planning to go over his place to view some movies today. Hence we decided to purchase some movies to watch. Frankly speaking, I was happy that dearest had volunteered to come look for me despite feeling tired from work. Thank you for spending time with me!

Anyway, I’m not going over to his place anymore today. Partly also due to me feeling kind of tired. Gamed until almost 3am before I went to bed. Haven’t had the ‘rush’ for games for quite sometime already. It feels rather fresh.

Been a week since my new job started, and I’d say so far so good. My colleagues are rather comical, friendly and helpful. Working environment is cozy and there is a certain flexibility to my job. Another good point is that my workplace is located near the shopping malls, bus interchange and MRT station. Well most importantly, my passion is burning high for now. This is my workplace desk!

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Yulian sits on my left and Xuan Guang on my right. I felt that the seating arrangements are quite ideal, because it’s easier to approach help from your team members this way. My mentor sits a bit further away from me, but she has been very attentive and patient towards me. Thanks, Wendy! Speaking of which, I’m having a hard time differentiating Xuan Guang and Xuan Hui because they are twins. I can’t even spot any differences between them!

And to my pleasant surprise, Carol is actually working in the company too! At least I feel less ‘new’ now, though we don’t talk much. We first met each other in-game a few years ago and lost contact after that. I was quite young then and she was a sisterly figure to me.

Okay for a change of topic, I happened to come across “the five love languages” on the internet and found it interesting and true.

“The first love language listed is words of affirmation. The language we hear, be it positive affirming words or negative language and feedback, drastically effects our developing personalities and therefore our behaviors.

The second love language listed is gifts: “A gift is a tangible object that says, ‘I was thinking about you. I wanted you to have this. I love you.’ . . . A gift by its very nature is not payment for services rendered. When a dating partner says, ‘I will give you . . if you will . .’ the partner is not offering a gift, nor is he expressing love. The person is simply striking a deal.”

The third love language the book lists is acts of service. For instance, “I know he loves me because he always checks my car over before I leave on a business trip. He checks the oil, the tires, and makes sure I have windshield washer fluid, etc.”

The next love language is quality time. This love language is about the experiences we share with our loved ones. How do you spend your time together? Quality time does not involve you in one room surfing the internet while he is in the other room watching ESPN!

The final love language is physical touch. The book states, “Numerous research projects in the area of child development have come to the same conclusion: Babies who are held, hugged, and touched tenderly develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact. . .”Almost instinctively in a time of crisis we hug one another. Why? Because physical touch is a powerful communicator of love.”

What do you think your primary love language is? If you’re currently in a partnership or more serious dating relationship, what do you think your significant other or partner’s love language is?”

– Adapted from this website.

Got to go have my dinner now… Have a balanced and hearty meal, dear readers!

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